Welcome to the Drunken Mumbler…
A blog for Men, with facts, fiction, and mental health tips strewn in with rambling thoughts and a dose of bullshit. Everything here will not be completely coherent or without contradiction – that’s kinda’ the point. This is the examination toward an authentic life. Cheers.
Trust Me
Ok, you fucked up and didn’t heed the advice in the previous post, and now you’re experiencing the utterly unpleasant experience of distrust. Let experience be the solution; it’s not called the best teacher for no reason. Actually, in the case of trust, its...
Truth and Trust Owe Each Other
I think it’s safe to assume we all regard trust and truth as important, good, and even worth striving for. But why? Maybe your answer is that these concepts are just inherently so. As usual, let’s dig a bit deeper, and also lay groundwork for the following post, which...
Individual Expectations
Part II - What about the individual? The main point here is that in a romantic/life partnership, individual expectations must be based on—or coincide with—relationship expectations. When expectation conflicts arise, typically the individual expectation must be...
Relationship Expectations
Expectations in a relationship (romantic, life partner, etc.), specifically misunderstood, misaligned, mis- or non-communicated expectations, are by far the largest contributor to relationship problems. I have no idea if this is empirically correct, but dammit if it...
Efficiency is not Pleasurable
We often tout efficiency as the pinnacle guiding principle on the way toward continued human achievement—almost like it’s the only metric that matters. Yes, it can be important, but what about pleasure? It’s, of course, not a binary situation—efficiency or...
Go Push a Button (analog vs. digital)
I often find myself longing for a period between the 1880s and 1950s. Not that I have any actual basis for my romanticizing of this time, but more the ideology of a pre-digital age. A quick Google search confirms that the digital age began in the ’70s. So we can...
Present But Not Available
Recently my clinical work has revealed some relationship behavioral patterns that prompted the title of this blog. It relates to (potential) romantic relationships. I’m old school and so I’m going to refer to men and women and the dynamics between them. I have...
An Abundance of Scarcity?
It’s time to get back to more thoughtful posting—perhaps..ok...well just posting in general as I look back on the last post date. And perhaps something relevant to get back on track, perhaps even something positive and uplifting. The concept of abundance vs. scarcity...
Intentionality Is Not Enough
I have this habit of trying to systematize and create models for how I think about things and ideally cause spurring thought to action more effective. I thought I had things pretty neatly structured with how I make use of the concept of ‘intentionality’. I...
Innovation?
Yes, this is another rant post. Perhaps I need to go back to COVID lockdown mode and avoid the world, as my irritation meter seems permanently stuck on a high setting. Okay, Carmel Cold-Brew M&M’s… I truly wish this were a photoshopped image above....
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