Welcome to the Drunken Mumbler…
A blog for Men, with facts, fiction, and mental health tips strewn in with rambling thoughts and a dose of bullshit. Everything here will not be completely coherent or without contradiction – that’s kinda’ the point. This is the examination toward an authentic life. Cheers.
Too much
I’m going to put on my old man hat for a minute (I actually own several). And I’m going to be curmudgeonly verbose, in line with the title of this blog. In quite a few of my client conversations, the discussion often turns to problems with the world at large. I mean,...
Direct Emotion
One more on the current train of emotion. She said, “I hate that this always…” He hears, “100% of the time?” and thinks, “That can’t even be true, and let me generate counter-examples to falsify this claim.” BUT what she means is, “I’m frustrated in having to deal...
Keep the Emotion!
Picking up from the previous post… “Can’t we just discuss this rationally?” How many of us have heard, or more likely said, this, specifically to our partner? Well, stop saying it! It’s dumb and doesn’t make any sense. Here’s why: Assuming we are talking about...
Why Emotion?
In therapy, I (and almost every other therapist) emphasize the role of emotions. But why? In sessions, I try my damnedest not to ask the often-mocked, smarmy, clichéd question, “How does that make you feel?” Aside from being a stupid question, it overly simplifies...
Fuck Your Appreciation
This dude must be the most appreciative man in the world. I mean, he NEVER misses an opportunity to acknowledge his gratitude. About everything. To everyone. All the time. So what’s my problem with appreciation? Nothing. Appreciation is an admirable, self-reflective...
Behavior Change 2: Continue with Resolve
And now for the star: Resolve. Some may think him unnecessary, perhaps a bit too subtle to be the star. But they would be wrong. This role is necessary and as we’ll see, deserving of top-billing for his special talent of mitigation and manifestation. You see, there...
Behavior Change 1: Begin with Discipline
Well, it’s going to be a new year soon. So what? What’s changed from last year? What’s remained the same? Perhaps the idea of making New Year’s resolutions has become overly overplayed. But perhaps so has the mocking backlash against such a beginning point for change....
Choose “That” not “Because”
This will be another post in the subcategory of the “problem of distancing from nature,” introduced in a previous post. Here we’ll explore distancing not in the physical sense but in the emotional-experiential sense. There’s a common technique in Cognitive Behavioral...
Am I a Paid Friend?
“My patients?” “My clients?” “The dudes I work with?”How do I describe my clientele? I struggle with this. “Patients” refers to the medical model and indicates a status differentiation that I dislike—none of us have figured “it” out. “Clients” comes across as if we’re...
Trust Me
Ok, you fucked up and didn’t heed the advice in the previous post, and now you’re experiencing the utterly unpleasant experience of distrust. Let experience be the solution; it’s not called the best teacher for no reason. Actually, in the case of trust, its...
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