by Carl Mothes | Feb 26, 2026 | Mens Therapy BLOG, Uncategorized
In therapy, I (and almost every other therapist) emphasize the role of emotions. But why? In sessions, I try my damnedest not to ask the often-mocked, smarmy, clichéd question, “How does that make you feel?” Aside from being a stupid question, it overly simplifies...
by Carl Mothes | Nov 7, 2025 | Mens Therapy BLOG, Uncategorized
“My patients?” “My clients?” “The dudes I work with?”How do I describe my clientele? I struggle with this. “Patients” refers to the medical model and indicates a status differentiation that I dislike—none of us have figured “it” out. “Clients” comes across as if we’re...
by Carl Mothes | Jul 10, 2025 | Mens Therapy BLOG
Part II – What about the individual? The main point here is that in a romantic/life partnership, individual expectations must be based on—or coincide with—relationship expectations. When expectation conflicts arise, typically the individual expectation...
by Carl Mothes | May 16, 2025 | Mens Therapy BLOG, Uncategorized
Expectations in a relationship (romantic, life partner, etc.), specifically misunderstood, misaligned, mis- or non-communicated expectations, are by far the largest contributor to relationship problems. I have no idea if this is empirically correct, but dammit if it...
