by Carl Mothes | Aug 20, 2026 | Mens Therapy BLOG, Uncategorized
I’m all for having systems in place to avoid situational decision-making. This can be quite a helpful method for adopting wanted behaviors. Do you want to eat healthier? Envision yourself as someone who eats healthy—adopt that as a system so when you’re standing in...
by Carl Mothes | Jun 4, 2026 | Mens Therapy BLOG, Uncategorized
I’m not the first to question this basic American postulate. And I’m also not the first to share the impact of perceptual shifts gained from travel abroad. For context, my wife and I just returned from our first trip to Europe: Portugal. So while it’s clichéd and...
by Carl Mothes | Mar 27, 2026 | Mens Therapy BLOG, Uncategorized
I’m going to put on my old man hat for a minute (I actually own several). And I’m going to be curmudgeonly verbose, in line with the title of this blog. In quite a few of my client conversations, the discussion often turns to problems with the world at large. I mean,...
by Carl Mothes | Mar 3, 2026 | Mens Therapy BLOG, Uncategorized
Picking up from the previous post… “Can’t we just discuss this rationally?” How many of us have heard, or more likely said, this, specifically to our partner? Well, stop saying it! It’s dumb and doesn’t make any sense. Here’s why: Assuming we are talking about...
by Carl Mothes | Feb 26, 2026 | Mens Therapy BLOG, Uncategorized
In therapy, I (and almost every other therapist) emphasize the role of emotions. But why? In sessions, I try my damnedest not to ask the often-mocked, smarmy, clichéd question, “How does that make you feel?” Aside from being a stupid question, it overly simplifies...
