by Carl Mothes | Aug 20, 2026 | Mens Therapy BLOG, Uncategorized
I’m all for having systems in place to avoid situational decision-making. This can be quite a helpful method for adopting wanted behaviors. Do you want to eat healthier? Envision yourself as someone who eats healthy—adopt that as a system so when you’re standing in...
by Carl Mothes | Mar 27, 2026 | Mens Therapy BLOG, Uncategorized
I’m going to put on my old man hat for a minute (I actually own several). And I’m going to be curmudgeonly verbose, in line with the title of this blog. In quite a few of my client conversations, the discussion often turns to problems with the world at large. I mean,...
by Carl Mothes | Mar 20, 2026 | Mens Therapy BLOG, Uncategorized
One more on the current train of emotion. She said, “I hate that this always…”
He hears, “100% of the time?” and thinks, “That can’t even be true, and let me generate counter-examples to falsify this claim.” BUT what she means is, “I’m frustrated in having to deal...
by Carl Mothes | Mar 3, 2026 | Mens Therapy BLOG, Uncategorized
Picking up from the previous post… “Can’t we just discuss this rationally?” How many of us have heard, or more likely said, this, specifically to our partner? Well, stop saying it! It’s dumb and doesn’t make any sense. Here’s why: Assuming we are talking about...
by Carl Mothes | Feb 26, 2026 | Mens Therapy BLOG, Uncategorized
In therapy, I (and almost every other therapist) emphasize the role of emotions. But why? In sessions, I try my damnedest not to ask the often-mocked, smarmy, clichéd question, “How does that make you feel?” Aside from being a stupid question, it overly simplifies...
